Monday, October 22, 2012

Why do we fail ??

Why do some people achieve their goals while others not ? Maybe the goals are not enough motivating? Maybe you fail because you cannot overcome the five barriers that, in many cases, guarantee failure. Let's see those barriers and how to overcome them:

1. Uninspiring Goals

When most people set goals, they envision a certain amount of money, an object (a new car), or a specific achievement . Unfortunately they miss the point that what you're actually seeking in life and work is the POSITIVE EMOTIONS that you believe those things will produce.
TO DO: Envision your goal with all the strength in your imagination such how you will feel when you achieve the goal. In that way, you'll be inspired to do whatever it takes to achieve that goal.

2. Fear of Failure

If you're afraid of failing, you won't take the necessary risks required to achieve your goal.  
TO DO: Think about failure as something temporary. If things don't go the way you'd like, it's only a setback that, at most, delays your eventual success. 

3. Fear of Success

This kind of fear is even more debilitating than the fear of failure. Imagine you have achieved your goal, like enormous wealth. What if it didn't make you happy? What if you ended up losing all ?  Such thoughts are dangerous!
TO DO: Decide that you're going to be happy in the future, no matter what happens.

4. An Unrealistic Timetable

Most people overestimate what they can do in a week,  in a year. The inability to get all the short-term steps accomplished creates discouragement and therefore we have the feeling that the final goal is slipping away.
TO DO: List the activities, steps required to achieve your  goal BUT  schedule only the 20% of the activities that will produce 80% of your results. Furthermore set ambitious long-term timetables.

5. Worrying About "Dry Spots

We can easily get discouraged when we arrive to the point when nothing we feel that nothing helps us to get towards the goal. For example, suppose you're trying to learn a language. You make swift progress in the beginning but then, it seems you get stuck and no more progress anymore. This is called "dry spot"period and often people use it as an excuse to give up and therefore fail.
TO DO: Whenever you reach the dry spot period, it's time to celebrate rather than give up. Dry spot is a sign that you're on the brink of a major breakthrough; You just have to be more patient in order you achieve your goal

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